What Are the Values That Guide Your Life?
By having a clear understanding of our values, we can gain greater clarity on the decisions we make in our lives. And it is in our decisions that we choose to power our life forward, or not. To make decisions with confidence and sustain the self-assurance necessary to hold true to those decisions, it is extremely beneficial to understand our values that motivate them.
In 2006, I was dating a lovely man who would have done anything for me. He “looked good on paper” but down deep I knew something was out of alignment with my heart, my head and my soul. At that time in my life I didn’t realize the importance of alignment between these three key parts of me – yet, I knew that something didn’t feel right.
I got the idea to do a value comparison with this man. I presented him with a list of 100 Values and asked him to pick the top 20 values that he felt were most important to him about who he was and what powered his life. I did the same and then we compared our top values. Out of the top 20, we only had one in common: Love. While I agree Love is certainly one of the most important values to have in one’s life, I believe almost everyone would have that on their list. As I suspected, the other nineteen did not match any of the values on my list. My inner knowing discovered that shared values are a necessary basis in relationship, and we only shared one.
It was suddenly clear why this was not the guy for me. I was then able to make the decision to end the relationship knowing it was for my highest good. Because this helped me better define who I am and to know my true motivations in life, it helped me see that we were not a match. Further, it helped me to better understand what I do want in a partner and in my own life. Although breaking off the relationship wasn’t easy, when I was true to myself, the universe gave me a gift.
Ninety days later, I met my now husband. (We shared 16 out of 20 values together.)
To download 400 Values to stimulate your mind, visit DonnaBond.com. Print out these pages, grab your favorite highlighter and get started. Do a little centering first. Close your eyes, take some deep breaths, focus your energy on your heart and relax. Then, using your highlighter go through the list illuminating anything that really resonates with you.
I recommend going through the list quickly and not judging what comes forward. Let your intuition guide you. Before doing the exercise here are a few questions for your consideration.
- What are the values that you live by?
- Who are you?
- What motivates you?
- What are the values you desire to have in your life?
- What do you want to create more of?
- What is true for you?
- What feels right in your heart?
Next, visit the highlights and select the ones that have the most energy for you and that ring most true to who you are. Transfer these top 10 or 20 words to a list in your journal. Own them. Let them resonate with you as part of who you are. Let them guide your decision making going forward. Have fun with this. This exercise will allow you to become intimate with the values that reflect the “real you”. The values that guide the decisions you make for your life.
As a personal and professional life coach, transformation consultant, spiritual teacher and inspirational speaker, Donna Bond offers inspiring workshops and transformative in-depth coaching programs that help businesses and clients achieve new heights of meaningful success, personal fulfillment and Spiritual aliveness. For more information visit DonnaBond.com.